4 Major Parenting Mistakes To Avoid

Tomorrow is Children’s day. Though for parents every day is for their children. The life of parents revolves around their children. Every child is special for his parents and parents want to give them best of every thing. 

Everyone has its own way to celebrate Children’s Day. Parents wish their children and make them feel special by cooking their favorite delicacies,take them out for lunch and dinner or shop for them and so on. 

Parents want to give their children a life full of luxury and comfort which is good but sometimes parents in giving their children best, make some mistakes which might spoil their children's life. Let's discuss some points.

Don't Teach About The Value of money

There is a very famous proverb in Hindi, PUT SAPOOT TO KYUN DHAN SANCHAY PUT KAPOOT TO KYUN DHAN SANCHAY’. The meaning of this proverb is that you don’t need to save money for your kids. If your child is capable, he will earn for himself and if your child is unworthy he will destroy everything.

Though this proverb can't be taken in this meaning in today's life because we have to save for the future as we can't predict the future and education is so expensive that we have to plan for saving if we want to give our children good education.

But we should teach to our kids the value of money. It's nice to shower attention and materialistic love but not so much that the child becomes a spoilt brat. He takes everything for granted and does not understand the value of anything. 

But some parents earn only to save for their children. I think this is one of the big reasons of corruption. You should save for their future but in the limit.  If you want to save your children’s future, give them good education.

As a parent if you want to safe your children’s future, give them good education and make them learn the value of money.

Being too strict

Well there is a contradiction in this. Some people are in favor of being friendly with their children and some people say that there are certain rules and boundaries which a parent has to maintain in order to bring out a healthy and independent individual out of the kid.

In my opinion being friend with a kid is not possible but being a supportive parent and provide them a healthy environment is possible. Make a place for the kids where they can come home in the time of need knowing that their parents are there to take care of them and create an environment of healthy communication, love and trust.

On the other hand some parents think that being strict will help their kids be in discipline. Strict parents try to raise their children in rules and regulations which is not a bad thing but not being flexible at all and being harsh every time or not able to provide them a supportive and friendly environment does not ensure a healthy relationship. Too much strictness will only force them to hide things from you and create a weird gulf between you and your child.

The intentions of every parent are to raise their children in that way that they become a healthy individual who will grow up to be a good human being. Well what parenting style is good for your kids is totally up to you but it has been found that parents who try to balance both discipline along with empathy can raise good kids having the right kind of behavior and a healthy relationship with their parents.

Over Pampering

No I am not talking that don't love your child or avoid affection and connection. Giving hugs, compliments, listen to them carefully, give attention to their feeling are not pampering. 

Pampering is doing things for our children that they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves. Parents make a mistake when they pamper their children in the name of love. Over pampering creates weakness because children develop the belief that others should do everything for them.

It is good to hold the hands but not to the point that the child is unable to do anything on his own. This results in low self-confidence and low self-esteem. Sometimes parents are so scared of their kids facing failures that they don’t allow them to try new things. If their kids don’t experience new things, how are they going to learn that failures are also essential part of life?

Not tell them about the bad effects

If you really want to help your children or protect them against evil habits like drinking, smoking or drugs addiction, just talk to them and tell them their bad effects on their health. This can make them less likely to experiment with these evil things or rely on friends for answers. 

You can take advantage of 'teachable moments'. If you see a character in a movie or on TV with ciggarette, talk about smoking and what it does to a person's body. This can lead to talk about other drugs and how they can harm. 

Make talking with your kids a regular part of your day and try to maintain open communication. 

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On the occasion of children's day give your children a warm, open family environment where their achievements are praised and encourage your kids to come forward with their questions and concerns. Pay your attention so you know when your kids are going through tough times. Offer your support when they in need, I think this is the best gift for our children on their day. 

Happy Children's Day!